...if anything, it increases empathy and the free flow of feelings. People are different, and they grieve in different ways and for different periods of time.
I have never met a sage (and I have met many) who would walk through a disaster zone and tell people to let go of their stories. Ryokan, the famous Zen poet, cried at times because he was lonely. He also cried when he was overcome by beauty. Once, he was asked by a friend to talk to his wayward son in an effort to get him to straighten up. The boy came for a visit, but Ryokan did not admonish him about his past behavior or tell him what he ought to do. The boy was sitting when he felt something warm and wet fall on his neck. He looked up and saw that Ryokan was crying over him. This had a profound effect upon the boy and subsequently he changed his ways. Ryokan was intimate with THIS.
I have never met a sage (and I have met many) who would walk through a disaster zone and tell people to let go of their stories. Ryokan, the famous Zen poet, cried at times because he was lonely. He also cried when he was overcome by beauty. Once, he was asked by a friend to talk to his wayward son in an effort to get him to straighten up. The boy came for a visit, but Ryokan did not admonish him about his past behavior or tell him what he ought to do. The boy was sitting when he felt something warm and wet fall on his neck. He looked up and saw that Ryokan was crying over him. This had a profound effect upon the boy and subsequently he changed his ways. Ryokan was intimate with THIS.
